Rihanna and Eminem know what’s up with “Love the Way You Lie”.
Fergie, girl, you make us feel stronger by saying “Big Girls/Boys Don’t Cry”.
Gilbert O’Sullivan reminds us nicely that we are “Alone Again (Naturally)”.
But, Gloria Gaynor is right, “I Will Survive”.
I am sure you have been here. Actually, I know you have. That guy/girl, who you like, just doesn’t like you back. Well maybe it’s even worse, you thought they did, but they don’t. Or maybe… it’s catastrophic. You liked each other, you confided in each other, you trusted each other, but they failed you. Seriously?! How dare they?!
Typical response is to be mad, I know, and it is okay. We all know what you could do… be mean, be unforgiving, be a torch, a flame, a disaster. But you could also take it as an amazing gift, an early Christmas present, a reality check. Why?
BECAUSE. Because what controls your mind, controls your life. Because this door closed in order for a new one to open. Because, you, should never, ever settle. If it is meant to be, it will. No rush. No worries. There is always time to look forward, but never time to look back.
Because when the past rings your doorbell, it has nothing new to say. Because you cannot allow loneliness to cause you to fall into the arms of someone you don’t belong with. Because you deserve the kind of hope, the kind of love, and the kind of trust you would give to someone else. Because the only person you need in your life is one who proves they need you in theirs.
Because it might take a year, it might take a day, but what is meant to be will find it’s way. Someday someone will look at you with light in their eyes, warmth in their heart, and you will look back and think your past was funny, your worries were embarrassing, and your heartbreaks were worth the pain. Don’t worry if someone does you wrong. Let them go, but let them be, there is no room for hate.
Because you deserve it. Because you are worth more than no response back, no time, and no truth. Because if they don’t chase when you walk away, keep walking. Because the right person will move mountains for you, not hide behind them. Because you didn’t make it this far to let someone else dictate your happiness.
We cannot, and never will be able to direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.
Don’t stress the could haves, would haves, should haves.
My friend, my advice to you is don’t look for love. Being single isn’t about looking for others, it’s about growing into yourself. Do things you would be afraid to try, meet people who you normally wouldn’t, take risks, have fun. Always remember it will always work out eventually, no doubt about it.
Give out love like it is confetti without any expectation of it’s return. Because confetti is confetti, it never loses it’s sparkle. Because confetti is confetti, come on, some is bound to fall on you.
And most importantly, the key to your love story is yourself. Date yourself. Take yourself out to dinner, to a movie, to the park. Talk to yourself. Love yourself BECAUSE you were made to be happy.
-Happiness in Handfulls